Scenes from Manhattan Beach, CA

Mahattan Beach, CA is a divine seaside town.  Beautiful beach, surfer's paradise, fantastic dining. Top that off with a breathtaking sunset and then sugar it up a bit more with a perfect moonrise. 

Hugs,

Melissa

What's In a Name?

It's late as I write this.  Pete just left for 17 days of business travel tonight.  I feel asleep around 9 PM as I was helping Little Monkey to go to sleep himself (i.e., I feel asleep reading to him ;-)).  Then, I woke up around 11 PM to make sure that everyone else had arrived in bed on time.  I have not been able to fall back to sleep.  I have a lot on my mind.  Today, I heard about a family (friends of friends) that lost their 21 year old son in 2012.  Two days ago, the father of that 21 year old died suddenly.  I can not even imagine what his sweet wife is enduring right now.  My heart aches for her and I don't even know her or anyone in her family.  To lose a child and a husband...

News of this kind always reminds to spend every second of every day being grateful for the time that I have right now with my family.  Tomorrow is not a guarantee.  The time for cultivating love is now.  I want to spend every chance that I can being present with those that I love.  Giving them my full attention.  Showing them that they are important.  Instilling in them that family is important.  I want our kids to know that the bonds we have as a family, The Lehman Family, are their roots, their foundation, their springboard for all other significant human relationships. It all starts here.  Our family shares a common faith.  We have experienced joys and sorrows together.  We serve and encourage each other.  We play together, work together, learn together and love together.  I want our  family name, Lehman, to be more than just a name.  I want it to be our identity.  Our legacy.

So, here are some questions for anyone reading.  How do you cultivate love in your family? How have you built your family's identity?  What legacy are you creating for the next generation?

I love hearing from you.  It makes me think.  You have great insights.  Sometimes I "borrow" your ideas.  Well, maybe more than sometimes.  Because, hey, we can all use encouragement!

Hugs,

Melissa

"Blurred Lines" by the Artist Formerly Known as and Still Known as Melissa

Blurred Lines (to the tune of Blurred lines)

Everybody get up!  Everybody get up! 

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Christmas has come and gone, Rung in the New Year too!

Thought that the holidays were over, and all that eating too.

Maybe, I'm going crazy!, Maybe, I'm going blind!  Maybe, I'm out of my mind!

So now, there's college football.  A National Championship too!

You better watch out Auburn! The 'Noles are coming for you!

One thing I want to know, I really, really do.

When do we end this party and say we're really through?

Maybe, I'm gaining some weigh!  Maybe, a pound or so!  Maybe, I don't want to know!

I really, really hate these blurred lines.  

These never-ending holiday food lines!

You know you want it!  You know you want it!

I'm getting worried for my behind!

I really need to be a good girl!  

But there's been egg nog, I've ate like a hog!

And I just want to be a good girl!

Buffets fantastic!  I can't get past it!

Okay, now we were close, but here comes the Super Bowl.

Hot wings, nachos, and soda.  I'm feeling really gross. 

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

February holds so much promise.  Oh, yes it's really true.

It's time to clean up our acts and say were really through. 

But wait! There's something lurking outside my home's front door.

Ding, dong!  The Girl Scouts are here!  They have cookie's galore!

And I've been trying to be a good girl! 

Thin Mints!  Fantastic!  Somoas!  Blasted! 

I really, really hate these blurred lines!

Just lock the door and close all the blinds!

You know you want it!  You know you want it!

I'm getting worried for my behind!

Everybody get up!  Everybody get up! 

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hey! Hey! Hey!

Hugs, 

Melissa

The Forty Funk!

I had nightmares about turning forty.  Straight up, wake up in the middle of the night, sweaty, panicky nightmares!  I just could not kick this impending sense of doom that settled over me about six months before my 40th birthday.  I couldn't help thinking that somehow 40 was a dirty word.  A big, fat, 5 letter nasty word.  The F-bomb!  Forty!

The day I turned forty, Pete threw me a huge surprise birthday party complete with a steel drum band and a house full of my favorite people.  We had so much fun!  However, after the party was over and the last of the confetti was swept away, the funk set in again.  I call it the Forty Funk.

Here are the symptoms of the Forty Funk:

1.  Indecisive.  Wishy washy.  Scatterbrained.  ADHD, HDAD,  "Where am I? ", "Who am I?"

2.  Acne.  Say WHAAAAAT? Yep, like full on awkward teeny-bopper, get out the Sea Breeze and three tubes of Extra Strength Clerasil acne.

3.  Insecure.  "Why are they looking at me?", "Do they like me?", "They hate me!", "This outfit makes my butt look big."  "This outfit makes my butt look big too!" "Wait, is my butt big?"

4.  Unsure.  "What should I do with the rest of my life?", "Is it all down hill from here?", "What am I good at anyway?"

5.  Emotional.  Happy, terrified, happy, angry, totally freaking out, excited, depressed, and happy again in a span of 5 minutes.  Or maybe 4 minutes.

So basically, I went through a second puberty the year I turned forty.  Yep, instead of the middle school puberty blues, I had the middle-aged puberty blues. I was an air-headed,  awkward, acne- laden, angry adolescent adult.  At times, it seemed that the only thing that defined my "adulthood" was my lack of head gear and AquaNet hairspray.

But, you know what?  Just like with the first puberty, something happened on the other side of the second puberty.  I changed.  It took awhile and I have not arrived, but somehow by the grace of God and medicated Stridex facial pads, I have overcome the Forty Funk.

And now, being forty-something has taken on a whole new life.  I feel more confident and able to make decisions with a clear mind.  I treat others the way that I want to be treated and do not worry about what others are thinking about me. I feel more stable emotionally and realize that joy comes from within no matter what is happening externally.  And while I still have a lot to learn, I am excited about the journey.

Oh, and I have also discovered Spanx.  So, that takes care of the booty dilemma.  Because, all's well that ends well.  Wink! Wink!

Can anyone else out there relate to the second puberty?  Throw on your Member's Only jacket, grab that Bonnie Bell lipgloss, and let's chat.  Comments on our FB Page or here on the blog are open.

Hugs,

Melissa

Here We Go!

Are you ready? The clock strikes midnight here on the East coast of the United States of America in less than an hour. To our friends in Japan - "Happy New Year!" To our friends in Europe, Africa, other parts of Asia and Russia, "Happy New Year!"  The new year is creeping closer by the minute and we are ready!  Are you ready?  We hear the fireworks all around and the energy is rising!  We are ready!!!! Ready!!! Ready!!!

2013 has been a crazy year!  I want to 

call it a year of discovery.  We have watched our monkeys discover what it means to be 21, 20, 15, 13, 9 and 4 years old.  We have discovered new friendships and reconnected with old friends.  We have discovered what it was like to live in New York City for the summer.  We have discovered more and more each day what it means to love and be loved!

So, here's to 2014!  What does this year have in store?  My hope is that we will laugh everyday until our sides hurt, love deeper and stronger than we ever thought possible, and that we will all be healthy, strong and able to help others in need with reckless abandonment.  Woo Hoo!!!  Let's get this party started!!!

Thank you to all of you for being devoted readers of "This and That".  I love our community!  Happy New Year!!!

Goodbye 2013! 

Hello 2014!

Hugs,

Melissa

Where Have All the Candy Canes Gone?

Marble Pound Cake Inkblot Personality Test.

I'm trying to get into the Christmas spirit.  No really, I am, but there are just a few things that are weighing me down.  Well, maybe more than a few...

1.  Egg nog.  Yes, egg nog is definitely weighing me down.  So, I tried low fat eggnog and it ticked me off because it's gross.  Get a life, low fat eggnog!

2.  Those reindeer antler things that people put on their cars.  Because cars look exactly like reindeer.

3. Christmas lights on cars.  Blink, blink, blink.  Distracted, distracted, just ran a red light, distracted. Blink, blink, blink.

4.  Christmas music.  Pleeease make it stop! My ears are bleeding!

5.  Did someone highjack a cargo ship en route from China carrying candy canes and Starlight mints? Were there some pirates on the high seas that needed a peppermint fix?  Because I can't seem to find peppermint anything anywhere this year.

6.  In my fruitless search for candy canes, I did find Christmas Candy Corn and Snowman Peeps.  I now consider both traders to their original holidays.  What's next? Cadbury Cream Ornaments (Please don't tell me if these are already on the market.  It will ruin me.)

7.  Speaking of fruitless...fruitcake.  That's all I have to say about that.

8.  Plastic nativity lawn ornaments. Poor Plastic Baby Jesus bakes in the sun by day and glows in the most eerie way by night.

9. Red and green together is an aesthetic assault.

10.  Sugar cookie dough = scrumptious!  Sugar cookie frosting = suspicious!  Red dye #3, 5, 7 and 9 anyone?

11. Christmas Traffic.  T=Turns, R=Random A=Adult, F=Fellows and F=Females I=Into, C=Crazed lunatics.

12.  Malls.  M=Mad, A=Adult, L=Looney, L=Lunatics, S=Shopping

13.  Santa's White Christmas, Pepperminty, Creme brûlée, White Chocolate Snowman-y, Sugar Cinna-Cookie, Gingerbread Baby, Egg Noggin', Cool Mint Evergreen Spearmint Mocha-chinos for $5 are really, really weighing me down.

Hugs (but only air hugs because I have a head cold and I don't want to spread anymore Christmas cheer than I already have),

Melissa

P.S.  Please make my day and add to the list.  I want to know what's weighing you down this Christmas season.

Come Laugh at...er...With Me!

This Wednesday night, dos days from today, we are going to have tons o' fun at SAK Comedy Lab in downtown Orlando!

If you need a break from the holiday crazy, then the Level 1 Comedy Showcase at SAK is the place to be on Wednesday, December 18 at 7 PM. Heck, you can even bring those rogue relatives from out of town with you because at $5 a ticket, the price is right. 

So, gather up your second cousins twice-removed and that dude that claims he is your great Uncle George, and make your way to SAK Comedy Lab.

We guarantee an hour of fun and laughs. After that, you're on your own with Aunt Helen's fruitcake and Grandpa Dick's "Country Christmas" harmonica medley.

To order tickets, get directions, etc., etc.:

https://www.sakcomedylab.com

Hugs,

Melissa